My pastor asked this question a few weeks ago and it really made an impact on me. He presented it like this: Here are two different types of relationship
You are meeting a business partner. You show up on time, you discuss your needs, what's going on in the business, finances, etc... then when the business is concluded, you shake hands and leave. Maybe if you also have a friendship with this person, you might chit-chat for awhile afterward, but you are more interested in conducting your business and moving on.
Now let's talk about another type of relationship. A spouse, a boyfriend or girlfriend, that special someone in your life. Whether you are married or just in the dating phase, this person is someone you are excited to see. You schedule special times to just sit and talk and share about your day. You might even make special plans for a date to do something your spouse enjoys. You know this person intimately. You enjoy the time you have together and you look for ways to please him or her. You might buy a special gift or take him to a movie or sporting even he likes. You get the picture. You love this person. They mean the world to you and you can't wait to see them again.
But the question is: Which one of these relationships describes the type of relationship you have with God?
Do you schedule a meeting with God early in the morning and bring to him a list of requests and things He needs to address? Do you treat the God of the Universe like a business partner? Someone who can help you with your work and life and finances?
Do you crave time alone with God? Do you look for moments to spend with Him in which you can just enjoy His presence and love Him, worshiping and thanking Him? Does He fill your thoughts day and night like a lover does? Do you look for things and ways to please Him? Are you desperate for more of Him and to know Him more?
How do you think your spouse would feel if they arranged a special evening out and when you arrived you sat down, looked at your watch and said, "What did you want to see me about?"
You may say, Well, it's different I can't see or hear God. How can I have that type of relationship? My answer would be, then you obviously don't know Him. Because He does speak to His people and He does reveal His presence. The key is you have to desperately want that, even more than you want Him to answer your prayers and fix your finances and heal your illnesses and bring home your prodigals. You have to want God just for Who He is.
Out of all the people in the Bible I believe David understood this the most.
As the deer pants for the water brooks, So my soul pants for You, O God. Psalm 42:1
One thing I have asked from the Lord, that I shall seek: That I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, To behold the beauty of the Lord And to meditate in His temple. Psalm 27:4
For a day in Your courts is better than a thousand outside. I would rather stand at the threshold of the house of my God Than dwell in the tents of wickedness. Psalm 84:10
Why do you think that despite all of David's sins (And he had some doosies) , he was still called by God: A man after my own heart